Decisions, Decisions, Decisions
Do you ever find yourself being confused?
Unable to make a decision?
Most of us have had experiences where we are asking ourselves, “Should I, or shouldn’t I?”
We think, “If I wait, the issue will go away, and hopefully resolve itself. “
All of that takes energy—sometimes a lot of it. So, what do we do when we feel we are trapped between “Yes” and “No”?
How do we make movement?
Decisions, Decisions, Decisions
Let’s start by examining the energies of Yes and No. Both of these energies are involved in every decision we make, even when we are deciding about something that may not be good for us. We must proceed through both energies in order to find out what is real and authentic. Then we are free to make choice and that is what is at the core of the issue; freedom to choose for ourselves from a place of deep authenticity.
“No” can actually be a refusal of responsibility. It is the energy of exclusion, it is the energy of static and there is no movement in it. Often, we say ‘no’ based on experiences of the past. The things to which we say ‘no’ in our inner voice stop any further discovery and block our resources. An energy that says ‘no’ to what is new is blocking that which is naturally flowing in from life. It results in saying ‘no’ to opportunities and possibilities.
“Yes” is the energy of inclusion—as in, “This is all mine to decide, based on my values and interests.” ‘Yes’ will engage our courage to move us through to our true desires, as opposed to moving us around the decision, thus avoiding or minimizing it. What we want will come to us when we say ‘yes’. We feel the energy of ‘yes’ in motion. Because what we focus on expands, we are now open to a new level of strength and confidence in ourselves, trusting in our capabilities.
And, there is a third option to “Yes” or “No”.
Many people believe that avoiding a decision and doing or saying nothing means that nothing can or will happen. This is not true.
Deciding to not to decide is still a decision!
If we do not make a choice, we do not move in either direction. We stand in the same place, feeling confused and alone in the energy of “I can’t”.
This lack of response activates a state of fear from some PAST experience, known or unknown.
Learning to stand patiently in the energy of “Yes” or “No”, gives us the opportunity to learn from both the gains and losses, big or small.
We gain the courage to stay in our truth instead of in a position of ambivalence, where everything is lost. Even if it seems that not making a choice means we are getting out of something (and we are—and it may be something good) we are really getting ourselves out of engagement in our lives and all that we have the opportunity learn.
Remember, this is often a short-term reaction to a deeply rooted, long-term, position from the past, one of ambivalence.
We tend to think it is about the situation we are dealing with and it really isn’t. When we look at the same situation from a feeling of confidence, we can choose how to handle it and therefore, respond to it.
So, how do we move from fear to confidence?
The simple truth is we are either in a story about “Yes,.. but..”, “if only”, “should or shouldn’t”, or we are in synch with our proper vibration, where we are naturally feeling connected and present with ourselves.
It is only when we get out of the storytelling loop that can we get what we truly want.
How do we do that?
Accept: We need to accept that we are where we are because of our choices. By means of our choices, we create everything one decision at a time.
Relax: You are the only one who can judge yourself and then believe that judgment. Nothing is stronger than you are.
Release: Awakening is a process—unhook from the loop by softening any judgments. RELEASE YOURSELF FROM WHAT REALLY DOESN’T MATTER. Release the image of the pattern you do not want to repeat, or you will be committing to getting the same result again. Unhook from the energy of ‘no’ so you are free to use your feelings in productive and satisfying ways. Imagine how you will do things differently in the future.
Focusing softly on the image of your new future, take these steps:
- Take a full deep breath and imagine taking a step back. You will feel the change on the inside before you will see it in action on the outside. Take a moment to feel this new feeling as you imagine the new outcome.
- Keeping your inner self filled up with the new feeling, imagine being this new you and stepping into this experience in just the right way that fits for you. While looking from this new perspective, what you will do differently in the future?
- Notice the new possibilities. See how you would achieve what you want one small step at a time, because that is how it comes.
There is a saying: The grass will be greener where you water it. Simply, those things to which we give our attention will flourish, and come into being. Give your new feelings and the vision of your new future your attention and watch them grow!
When you are trapped between “Yes” and “No”, stop, breathe and allow yourself to move into the moment with your authentic self. You’ll know instinctively what is right for you and begin making decisions with ease, confidence and joy.
Love & Light,
Jo
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